Love or Lust?

Why is there this overflowing portrayal in the media of the LGBTQ community as over sexualized people? As if our entire lives are based on this orgy of cunnilingus erotica. And why is it that this portrayal is carried mostly by heterosexual actors? Would it be TOO gay to actually have ONE real-life lesbian or queer on the show. This misconstrued image of our community gets embedded into the minds of the people who love us. The first thing my mother asked me when i "CAME-OUT" (as if it could be hidden) was "How is having sex with a woman OKAY?". It pisses me off that that's the first thing she thinks about when I tell her this is what I love. But in actuality, she has nothing to go off of other than television and some gender confused lesbians. And this is who she relates me to. Why is it when you tell a guy you are a lesbian they all have the same response as if some chip has been surgically placed in their brains that makes them all say "She cant do you like I can" or "Damn that's sexy can I be in the middle of that". Muthufucka this is not an invitation for you to join in on a little menage-a-trois action!
I Kissed A Girl - Katy Perry
So my question is who constructed this image of "homosexuality"? The media? Or our own community subconsciously?

6 comments:

visibleunderground said...

I think the actual state of the homosexual community is PARTLY an explanation...but not at fault...because the way our society is set up right now, homosexuality can rarely be much more than an expression of sexual freedom. They don't allow us the rights that would encourage us to pursue long lasting and meaningful relationships. Yes, some of us still defy the odds and find that wonderful woman [or man] for us...but generally the lesbian community is not programmed to take their relationships seriously. It takes years, sometimes decades after an average straight woman might want to focus on settling down for us to realize that running from woman to woman is a wasteful endeavour. My opinion is subject to change, but this is what I think

De'Angela Kelly said...

I am so glad you posted this because it is so true. WHen i told my mom I gay the first thing she said was how you gonna do that to a women...and I was like do what.. and she said you know what DIKES do!! It really hurt my feelings bc i was with my girl for three years and it wasn't all about sex I really loved her. Anyway the point is that it really hurt and Im glad I'm not the only one who feels this way!

whitney said...

It is real unfortunate that outsiders of the community protray "gays" as over sexualized. I believe that it's the media and now our own community that have put this label on us. I have notice that a lot of young females are imitating this painted picture of open, free-love, erotic bliss. I hear a lot of talk around the subject of "sex", like it's the only important factor in and outside a relationship. I see it mainly as a front or a game, who's the biggest player, who can keep up with my game. They try to be one up on the next lesbian like they have something to prove. I believe the youth is not making it easier for us to drive away from this stereotype. As far as men's responses to, "I am a lesbian", i completly understand! When i am hit on by guys i have to think to myself, do i even waste my time informing them that i am a lesbian? Either way i'm at a loss and will be annoyed!

sexililmocha69 said...

ionno..that is too true though. im not sure whats become of the media these days and homosexuality. when we are included in some type of spotlight of a movie we get misinterpreted, if a girl was to be gay the story writers would make her sleep with girls but guys as well.

and to speak specifically on them guys that say annoying comments like oh i bet you i can eat you better than she can, or your too pretty to be gay. Or the most common one, "You just didn't have some good dick yet" that shit pisses me the hell off. As if some penis would somehow 'turn me str8?' SUREEE...keep thinking that.

Anointed said...

Who constructed the image? Hummm.....a mixture of both in 'today's world' as well as the past down issues from way way back. I know that some people main problem with seeing homosexuals as just people full of lust is because they don't understand how the same sex could love one another. But yes homosexuals really do find someone that they truly love. Two people who have joined themselves together and have created such a bond forms the chemistry of love.....pint blank. Even the bible acknowledges this affection by referring to it as unnatural (Romans1:25-32). This lets you know that they really do feel this way. The lust part of it has descended down from times past and yes in these latter days the publicity of it and social output has enlarged the views of lust so much as to attack homosexuals with it. We see the descended part in the Old Testament verses of how people committed different forms of lustful acts. So what does lust have to do with a homosexual? It is the way that they make love to one another. The sexual acts are not the purpose and design that God created sex for. Is this found just with homosexuals? NO! Heterosexuals perform these lustful acts as well. Any form of oral sex, anal sex, "freaky sex" and such as like these defile the union between male and female that God intended from the beginning. This is why homosexuals stand out in the lust view b/c they have no choice but to redesign God's created purpose of the male and female way to have intercourse,however,lust is the wrong word chosen. Homosexuals practice immorality not lust. You can meet a homosexual who has never had a lustful way about them. Lust is the word for ANYONE who has a craving appetite for sex that they can't control. But lust is not just a word for sex like most make it out to be. People in general can have a lust/greed for money and any other tangible thing.

Her-N-Eve said...

i agree with most of what you said...one part i DONt is homosexuals practicing immorality lol..what is moral? something defined in the heart, the heart or what someone has written in a book? But that question just stems from if one believes that "God said..." is truly God's word. People who do not believe in God still have morals, so who defines it but oneself? But then one would have to be open minded enough to be educated on all practices and religions. Because everyone thinks their way/religion is the right way. But religion has nothing to do with immorality. So once again who defines it?

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